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Here Are 4 Myths About Older Women and Sex that Need To Go Away Immediately

"Carla Rosinski, a Boston area mental health counselor, points out that part of the origin of the myth that older women aren’t into sex stems from the fact that menopause reduces the amount of estrogen produced by the ovaries, resulting in the thinning and dryness of the vaginal walls. This is called vaginal atrophy, and it can make intercourse painful. Regular intercourse can actually help atrophy, as it brings more blood flow and circulation to the vaginal walls. “It is worth saying that having sex does not just mean vaginal penetration,” says Rosinski. “There are many different ways to have a healthy sex life.”

12 Things Sex Therapists Wish You Knew

"'If your partner is into something you're not, don't bring shame into the discussion,' says sex therapist Carla Rosinski, MA, LMHC. 'We have enough baggage about sex as it is. Just as with any communication in a relationship, you want both you and your partner to feel safe to talk about feelings and desires without judgment. If your partner brings up something you're not into and really not willing to try out, be kind and honest about it. Or just take the risk and experiment!'"

7 Subtle Signs You Could Be More Confident In Bed & Should Let Go A Little

"4. You Never Masturbate

If you don't want to go down there, why should your partner? If you find masturbation to gross and uncomfortable, you're probably not in touch enough with your own sexuality to make sex fun and enjoyable, says Carla Rosinski, LMHC, a Sex Therapist, over email with Bustle.

5. You Get Embarrassed By Sex Scenes

If you're freaked out by sexy or raunchy scenes in movies, you could probably be a little more confident in bed, as well, says Rosinski. That is, unless you're watching with your parents, of course. Remember, you're a grown ass woman. You deserve wild sex. No shame.

6. You Laugh At The Thought Of Doing More Adventurous Things

Laughing if there are weird noises (like a creaky bed or the infamous queefing sound) can actually be a sign of a good partner, as it means you're comfortable with sex and your body; however, if you're laughing when your partner tries to do something fun and spontaneous, it can be a major turn off, says Rosinski."